Category Archives: The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

Belief in Yourself Is Empowering

“When you believe something is impossible, your mind goes to work for you to prove why. But, when you believe, really believe, something can be done, your mind goes to work for you and helps you to find the ways to do it.” (p. 85)

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How To Make A Great Speech

“Most folks are lousy public speakers. Why? The reason is simple. Most people concentrate on the small, trivial things of speaking at the expense of the big, important things…The real test of a speaker is not did he stand straight or did he make any mistakes in grammar, but rather did the audience get the points he wanted to put across. Most of our top speakers have petty defects…yet all these successful public speakers have one thing in common. They have something to say and they feel a burning desire for other people to hear it.” (p. 77)

What To Do If You Don’t Feel In Love

“The great psychologist, Dr. George W. Crane, said in his famous book, Applied Psychology (Chicago: Hopkins Syndicate, Inc., 1950) ‘Remember, motions are the precursors of emotions. You can’t control the latter directly but only through your choice of motions or actions… To avoid this all too common tragedy (marital difficulties and misunderstandings) become aware of the true psychological facts. Go through the proper motions each day and you’ll soon begin to feel the corresponding emotions! Just be sure you and your mate go through those motions of dates and kisses, the phrasing of sincere daily compliments, plus the many other little courtesies, and you need not worry about the emotion of love. You can’t act devoted for very long without feeling devoted.'” (p. 60)

How to Deal with Mean People

“People who want figuratively to bite you, growl at you, pick on you and otherwise chop you down are not rare. If you’re not prepared for people like that, they can punch big holes in your confidence and make you feel completely defeated. You need a defense against an adult bully…[the best defense is to remember that] ‘underneath he’s probably a very nice guy. Most folks are.’ Remember those two short sentences next time someone declares war on you. Hold your fire. The way to win in situations like this is to let the other fellow blow his stack, and then forget it.” (p. 57)

Confidence Is Acquired Through Effort Not Nature

“…Condition yourself with this fact: all confidence is acquired, developed. No one is born with confidence. Those people you know who radiate confidence, who have conquered worry, who are at east everywhere and all the time, acquired their confidence, every bit of it.” (p. 47)

Intelligence and Success

“Intelligence excusitis or “I lack brains” is common. In fact, it’s so common that perhaps as many as 95 percent of people around us have it in varying degrees. Unlike most other types of excusitis, people suffering from this particular type of the malady suffer in silence. Not many people will admit openly that they think they lack adequate intelligence. Rather, they feel it deep down inside.” (p. 34)

How to Develop the Power of Believing in Yourself

  1. “Think success, don’t think failure. At work, in your home, substitute success thinking for failure thinking. When you face a difficult situation, think, ‘I’ll win,’ not ‘I’ll probably lose.’
  2. Remind yourself regularly that you are better than you think you are. Successful people are not supermen. Success does not require super-intellect. Nor is there anything mystical about success. And success isn’t based on luck. Successful people are just ordinary folks who have developed believe in themselves and what they do. Never–yes, never–sell yourself short.
  3. Believe Big. The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief. Think little goals and expect little achievements. Think big goals and win big success. Remember this, too! Big ideas and big plans are often easier–certainly no more difficult–than small ideas and small plans.” (pp. 25-26)