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What To Do If You Don’t Feel In Love

“The great psychologist, Dr. George W. Crane, said in his famous book, Applied Psychology (Chicago: Hopkins Syndicate, Inc., 1950) ‘Remember, motions are the precursors of emotions. You can’t control the latter directly but only through your choice of motions or actions… To avoid this all too common tragedy (marital difficulties and misunderstandings) become aware of the true psychological facts. Go through the proper motions each day and you’ll soon begin to feel the corresponding emotions! Just be sure you and your mate go through those motions of dates and kisses, the phrasing of sincere daily compliments, plus the many other little courtesies, and you need not worry about the emotion of love. You can’t act devoted for very long without feeling devoted.'” (p. 60)

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How to Deal with Mean People

“People who want figuratively to bite you, growl at you, pick on you and otherwise chop you down are not rare. If you’re not prepared for people like that, they can punch big holes in your confidence and make you feel completely defeated. You need a defense against an adult bully…[the best defense is to remember that] ‘underneath he’s probably a very nice guy. Most folks are.’ Remember those two short sentences next time someone declares war on you. Hold your fire. The way to win in situations like this is to let the other fellow blow his stack, and then forget it.” (p. 57)